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northernwalkerYou are single and have been dating someone for about 2 months. He seems like a great guy- shares your interests, is fun, helpful, romantic, etc. He's also reasonably well off, which is nice but not that important to you. You have been sexually involved for a month or so and everything seems wonderful.
Then you find out he's been lying to you about his identity all along, fake name and all. He is actually single, but he frequently uses a fake name avoid dealing with people who only want his money, as he's wealthier than he led you to believe. He doesn't think it's a big deal- he gets that you're upset, but sees it as a minor mistake. He wants to keep seeing you. How do you react?
Sub in the gender of your choice- I just didn't want to write he/she fifteen times. I'm lazy.
I think he's a sleazeball and would dump him flat. I'd also be getting a battery of STD tests. He's displayed no respect for me or my feelings, and the fact that he's willing to lie about something this big simply because it's more convenient for him tells me something very unpleasant about his character. I'd also be highly offended at being written off as a golddigger.
This question was brought to you by the dreadful romance novel I was glaring at in the bookstore tonight. I hit this point and threw it overboard. I assume he got the girl in the end, but I couldn't stand to look at it any longer.
Then you find out he's been lying to you about his identity all along, fake name and all. He is actually single, but he frequently uses a fake name avoid dealing with people who only want his money, as he's wealthier than he led you to believe. He doesn't think it's a big deal- he gets that you're upset, but sees it as a minor mistake. He wants to keep seeing you. How do you react?
Sub in the gender of your choice- I just didn't want to write he/she fifteen times. I'm lazy.
I think he's a sleazeball and would dump him flat. I'd also be getting a battery of STD tests. He's displayed no respect for me or my feelings, and the fact that he's willing to lie about something this big simply because it's more convenient for him tells me something very unpleasant about his character. I'd also be highly offended at being written off as a golddigger.
This question was brought to you by the dreadful romance novel I was glaring at in the bookstore tonight. I hit this point and threw it overboard. I assume he got the girl in the end, but I couldn't stand to look at it any longer.
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Date: 2009-11-08 06:17 am (UTC)after all, he does not have to tell anyone his financial status
It doesn't matter whether he tells anyone or not. Once you get past a certain point, too many people know anyway... and then the whole world does. Even if they don't associate a face with the name.
Still, there has to be a better way to handle it than not telling you even after two months of dating (and sex for the last month of that).
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Date: 2009-11-08 06:03 pm (UTC)