Question of the week...

[northernwalker]

Would you tell one half of a couple that the other half was cheating? In this hypothetical, either person A has told you, or their cheating partner has, or you walked in and found them... in short, you have solid knowledege of said cheat.

I would, because I'd want to know, especially if we aren't using condoms. However, I'd probably tell me in a location where there are no pokers, firearms or knives in easy reach.

If the answer is no, then why not?

Comments

[northernwalker]

I agree that the Condo of Denial people aren't going to want to hear it and the jealous ones might shoot the messenger. But. I think I'd still tell. It's just too dangerous not to.

[nostasia.livejournal.com]

That's a tough one. If it was me being cheated on, I think I'd prefer to know so that I could protect myself. But me telling someone else would be harder. On the one hand, I'd figure that A has a right to know what B is doing so that A could protect him/herself. On the other hand, I'd be concerned about being seen as responsible for any consequences resulting from the news (this country is so suit-happy, I can see someone suing claiming that the person who told them 'ruined' their marriage or some such).

[northernwalker]

I hadn't thought about being sued- that's a good point.