Women can and do become pregnant in spite of being on hormonal birth control, so I might normally side with the woman in attributing the pregnancy to a legitimate accident or mistake. However, I would imagine that after having 3 kids, she would know how to recognize the signs of pregnancy in herself, and wouldn't have to wait until 5 months along to share the news if her intentions were pure. Plus the fact that she was obviously getting prenatal care all along if she was able to give the gender of the child when she finally got around to sharing her news.
By telephone, yet. After having flat-out lied to him when he asked. After having pulled this once before. I think she's made her position pretty clear on things.
This woman is seriously sketchtastic as a spouse. A vasectomy seems not optional at this point. He really should have gotten one before, if he had already been oopsed once. That's really the one aspect of their shared reproductive lives that he has complete control over
Yeah, I'd have been in the doctor's office ASAP after that stunt if it were me.
I agree completely with what you said about being in a marriage meaning you can't make unilateral decisions, and that you need to be able to trust that the other person will uphold their side of a mutually agreed-upon decision, regardless of whether or not the decision is their first choice of outcomes.
Considering that she's made it quite clear she's willing to ignore his feelings on something this fundamental, I don't think I'd be able to trust that at all. Which is complicated, because there's now four children involved.
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Date: 2008-06-30 08:07 pm (UTC)By telephone, yet. After having flat-out lied to him when he asked. After having pulled this once before. I think she's made her position pretty clear on things.
This woman is seriously sketchtastic as a spouse. A vasectomy seems not optional at this point. He really should have gotten one before, if he had already been oopsed once. That's really the one aspect of their shared reproductive lives that he has complete control over
Yeah, I'd have been in the doctor's office ASAP after that stunt if it were me.
I agree completely with what you said about being in a marriage meaning you can't make unilateral decisions, and that you need to be able to trust that the other person will uphold their side of a mutually agreed-upon decision, regardless of whether or not the decision is their first choice of outcomes.
Considering that she's made it quite clear she's willing to ignore his feelings on something this fundamental, I don't think I'd be able to trust that at all. Which is complicated, because there's now four children involved.